Biblical order for the family:
GOD —–> HUSBAND ——-> WIFE ——–> CHILDREN
Ephesians 5:22 – New King James Version
Marriage—Christ and the Church
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body,[d] of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”[e] 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Husbands if you want your wives to treat you with respect take the Leadership role and treat your wives with gentleness. Show your wives the love that Christ showed the church. He stood for us all and gave His very life for us. He taught us by His words and lead us by His actions and His Walk. He was our example to follow.
Wives even if your husband does not show you the love you crave you are not released from showing your husband respect.
This applies to remarriages as well. Life may have happened before. Maybe your ‘picker’ was broken when you married the first time. Please know I do not believe in divorce – it is heart breaking. Both John & I have been divorced. I feel our ‘pickers’ were broken. We married the wrong people and a marriage needs both parties to submit and try at the marriage in order for it to work.
Please remember Forgiveness and Repentance is KEY to surviving difficult times in a marriage. This is needed over and over and over!
You are NOT perfect. Your spouse is NOT perfect. We are sinful human beings and will continue to make mistakes til the day we die. Sometimes our responses (a lot of times actually) are wrong and can be very hurtful. They may be a one-time response or it may be an ingrained response that happens again and again.
If you have discussed this with your spouse and your spouse has agreed to change this behavior, please understand any ingrained response may be a habit. This will take time to change. Be patient. Show them by example how to react to situations that are difficult.
Most importantly, instead of returning the out-burst or anger – PRAY for your spouse, your marriage, and the situation you both are facing. Ask the Lord to cover you in patience, grace, and understanding.
How can we as husbands show our wives that we love them?
Also, as wives how can we show our husbands respect?